It’s a mother’s duty – train up a child in the way she should go so she can one day soar through life on her own. And while I can’t wait to see what joys and triumphs the future holds for my first little chick, my heart is aching at the thought of letting her go.
Next Friday, my oldest child, my only daughter, will leave home and move into her freshman dorm room at Abilene Christian University. Now, I can’t whine too much, because I have it much easier than many moms. She’s still in the town where we live. In fact, my husband and I both work for the university where she will be attending. Yet, every time I think of walking past her bedroom and seeing it empty, void of the mess I’m always complaining about–no more stacks of clean clothes that can’t seem to make it into her dresser drawers, no library books and cross-stitch projects littering the floor, no more discarded shoes and papers and random miscellany in every nook and cranny–well, I get a little weepy.
How on earth did my mom survive my leaving home and traveling nearly 1500 miles from California to Texas? No texting or Skype to stay in touch, just an occasional phone call from the pay phone in the dorm lobby. No going home on weekends or even holidays other than Christmas and summer vacation. Yet as that bright-eyed 18-year-old, I felt so mature and self-confident. I didn’t need mom anymore, other than for occasional emotional support.
What a sobering thought.
She’s a smart kiddo, so I have every confidence she’ll do well. Graduated valedictorian, a national merit finalist. She’s majoring in Math and plans on getting two minors in Chemistry and Computer Science, just because she likes the material. And she’s starting with a bang – Calculus III, Organic Chemistry, Computer Science, Honors Cornerstone, and Honors Bible. Oh, and marching band.
- So, any of you moms of young adults have advice for a first time launcher?
- Any young women have advice on what NOT to do? I don’t want to cramp her style, after all.
My plan right now is to get through with a lot of prayer and open communication sans nagging. Not so sure how the no nagging thing is going to work, but I’m going to give it my best shot.