In the midst of a worldwide pandemic and widespread unrest, my family and friends have suffered a loss that strikes much closer to home. We lost a good friend.
Over 22 years ago now, when my oldest was a newborn, I made a group of friends through an Early Childhood Education class. We were all first-time mothers and have been friends ever since. We have shared innumerable play dates and outings to museums, zoos, parades, etc. We have co-hosted baby showers, birthday parties, Christmas and Valentine’s Day parties and along the way become honorary aunts and uncles to each other’s children. We have gone on many camping trips together and oh, the stories we tell and the memories we share from those early days of learning to be moms and dads.
As our children grew older and got busy with their own pursuits, we moms continued to get together for coffee and commiserating over school year challenges, teenage struggles, driver’s tests and first dates, to college applications.
A few weeks ago, one of these dear friends and her son were diagnosed with Covid-19. Soon her daughter and husband were feeling ill too. The son and daughter quickly recovered. My friend suffered terribly for a few weeks at home before recovering as well. Her sweet, funny, hardworking husband, however, found it increasingly difficult to breathe and was eventually hospitalized and put on a ventilator. We all prayed so hard. Were so sure he would recover. Sent encouraging texts and left food and flowers on their doorstep, and kept praying.
But he did not recover.
He died late last week and his funeral is tomorrow. At times like these, it’s hard to understand God’s will.
My friend is naturally devastated. And her kids—one who graduated online from high school and the other from college while their Dad was in ICU—are no doubt struggling as well. They are young adults, yes, but still need their Dad.
They were able to see him before he passed. That must have been some comfort when so many have had to die alone during this pandemic. But still… So. Hard.
I realize my loss is minimal compared to theirs and to so many others who are suffering in our world right now. I don’t have any great insights to offer. But it’s my turn to blog and I don’t feel up to promoting a book or talking about favorite authors or future travels. I keep reminding myself that, “this world is not our home; we’re just passing through,” but my heart still hurts.
I have no words of wisdom to offer. Instead, I’m seeking comfort the only way I know how. From God’s word. In case anyone else reading this is struggling with similar sadness today, here are a few verses I find comforting. I hope you to, too.
If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. —James 1:5
The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom; all those who practice it have a good understanding. His praise endures forever! —Psalm 111:10
“Father, if it is Your will, take this cup away from Me; nevertheless not My will, but Yours, be done.” —Luke 22:42
For this God is our God for ever and ever: he will be our guide even unto death. —Psalm 48:14
Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. —Proverbs 3:5&6
Have you not known? Have you not heard? The LORD is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He does not faint or grow weary; his understanding is unsearchable. —Isaiah 40:28
And he said, “Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked shall I return. The LORD gave, and the LORD has taken away; blessed be the name of the LORD.” — Job 1:21
For I know that my Redeemer lives, and at the last he will stand upon the earth. —Job 19:25
Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. —Isaiah 41:10
No eye has seen no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined what God has prepared for those who love him. —1 Corinthians 2:9b
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. For just as the sufferings of Christ flow over into our lives, so also through Christ our comfort overflows. If we are distressed, it is for your comfort and salvation; if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which produces in you patient endurance of the same sufferings we suffer. —2 Corinthians 1: 4-7
Any you would add? Either way, thank you for being here today.
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Lynn Austin says
I’m so sad for your loss, Julie. I’m praying for you and your friends.
Anna says
That’s so sad! Hope you and your friends are going well while facing the loss. Blessings!
Shakespeare’s Fear No More and the hymn Only Remembered might suit your feelings this moment. Especially Only Remembered.
Carole Johnson says
So sorry for your loss. Praying for all of you.
Janice says
Sing or listen to “Precious Lord,” written by Tommy Dorsey while grieving the loss of his wife. And give yourself permission to mourn.
Angie Quantrell says
So, so sorry to hear this. What a loss! Hugs and prayers!
Becky Wade says
That’s heartbreaking, Julie! I’m so sorry to hear about your friend’s death.
Deborah Raney says
I’m so sorry, Julie. Those are wonderful Scriptures for this time we find our nation and the world in. So thankful our Lord is never-changing, always present!
Anne Mateer says
So hard! So glad that the Lord is ultimately our comfort, even though we still grieve our losses. Hugs, dear friend!
Betty Strohecker says
I can feel your sorrow. So sorry for your loss.
I would add:
Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me. In my Father’s house are many mansions: if it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for. And if I go and prepare for you, I will come again, and receive you unto myself; that where I am, there you may be also. – John 14:1-3.
For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God: and the dead in Christ shall rise first: Then we which are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air; and so shall we ever be with the Lord.
1Thess: 4:16-17.
Julie Klassen says
Thank you, Betty!
Elisa says
My condolences for your loss.
“They whom we love and lose are no longer where they are before…They are now wherever we are.” ~ St. John Chrysostom
Suzanne says
I read this post early this morning and have thought of you and your precious friends throughout the day. I pray the Lord is near bringing comfort and peace through the precious memories you shared.
My husband and I watched Dr.David Jeremiah on Sunday and he reminded us that In the midst of our sorrows and cares, that Jesus is praying for us. While I know this, it was what I needed to hear. He also quoted one of my favorite verses… 1 Peter 5:7 Casting all your cares upon Him, for He cares for you.I pray this for you.
Again, I am so very sorry for your loss, I will continue to remember you and yours in my prayers. God bless you!
Sherry Pike says
My favorite: “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for good and not for evil, to give you a hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11
Julie says
“Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.” – Matthew 5:4
Praying for God to bring peace and comfort to your friend’s family, and to you as well.
Robin says
I am so very sorry. He looked like a really nice man. I will pray his family tonight. Thank you for sharing the verses.